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Overcoming perfectionism trauma and fear of losing control


An appetite to attain is healthy but a ludicrous craving to forever be perfect can induce problems. Perfectionism is a personality marker that makes people clasp themselves impossibly elevated standards and they think that whatever they do is never adequate. Perfectionism is not an ailment but perfectionism trauma can make you feel disappointed leading to anxiety, depression, eating disorders and self harm.

There are two main types of perfectionism- Adaptive and Maladaptive perfectionism. Adaptive perfectionism is correlated to high personal precepts and the person adjusts those standards in reaction to any type of changes. Maladaptive perfectionism is where the person inclined to admonish himself when they fail to satisfy their own standards. It is unfailingly connected to stress, anxiety, depression and negativity.

The symptoms of perfectionism trauma and fear of losing control:

  • You perceive like you flunk at everything you attempt.
  • You may avert beginning a task because you frighten that you cant complete it faultlessly.
  • You may endeavor to get peaceful and share your sentiments and thoughts to anyone.
  • You may evolve very dominant in your relationships whether these are personal or professional.
  • You may become gripped with work, lists, rules or become awfully unconcerned. 

Causes of perfectionism:

  • Strict and utopian outlooks from parents.
  • Highly critical or offensive families.
  • Unnecessary appreciation for your attainments.
  • Feeling inefficient.
  • Fear of downfall of not standing good enough.
  • Low self esteem.
  • Cultural outlooks.
  • Your self worth is inferred by your accomplishments.

Perfectionism’s costs and consequences:

  • You may decline to be your best because you constantly try to do best.
  • You experience depression and harm yourself for not achieving your goals.
  • Dwindle your self esteem, sense of stability and satisfaction.
  • Compulsive focus on satisfying a goal flawlessly, impeding your attainment and growth.
  • It lead to immense stress, concerns of deficit and dismay of judgement.

How to overcome perfectionism trauma and fear of losing control:

Emotional awareness: 

Emotional comfort is essential to overcome perfectionism trauma. Firstly, you need to recognize your emotional stimuli and scrutinize them. It’s a good idea to write down your thoughts and impulses for better awareness. Give some space to yourself and react consequently. 

Eliminate negative influences:

Avoid negative content on TV, mobiles or newspapers. When we expose to negative things, we think and feel similarly. Limit negative impacts, it can help you move away from perfectionism.

Stop hesitating 

People with perfectionism can be renowned procrastinators as they allow themselves an excuse when they realize they can’t do something faultlessly. Remember that it’s not a big deal if your work is not perfect. May be it’s not perfect when you start but when you continue, you can do it perfectly. 

Emphasise on essence over perfection:

Try to concentrate on discovering the meaning in what you do, instead  focusing on perfection. If something brings you meaning and satisfaction then perfectionism doesn’t matter. Finding meaning can give more fulfilment.

Find a therapist or alternative enduring strategies:

When you know your emotional triggers, it’s easy go create the coping strategies to alleviate your emotional miseries. Talk to a therapist because they can help you overcome it better.

Perfectionism certainly motivates you ahead into doing things nicely but it also clasps you back through overthinking and setting too much burden on yourself. When you seek for impressive achievement and perfectionism it always leads to self judgment and suspicion about how people will assess your accomplishment. Overcoming perfectionism trauma and fear of losing control is valuable for your attainment and to live a peaceful life.

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